5,。 You‘re a better communicator。
　　你能更好地與人溝通,。

　　In order to really establish limits,， you have to state what you can or cannot tolerate， Buck said。 That means being clear and concise,。 Expressing your own needs will also allow you to be more transparent,。 All of these characteristics are elements of good communication。
　　巴克說,，為了真正設(shè)立限度,，你必須要明確說明你能忍受什么或者不能忍受什么，這也就意味著你必須說得清楚簡潔,。表達自己的需要還會讓你成為一個更透明的人,。所有這些特征都是構(gòu)建良好溝通的元素。

　　6,。 You start trusting people more,。
　　你開始更加信任他人。

　　Expressing your limitations to others means you‘re trusting them to handle those emotions you’re conveying,， Buck said,。 And more trust means better relationships。
　　巴克說,，能向別人表達出你的限度,，說明你信任他們，相信他們能夠處理好你傳達的情緒,。而更多信任也就意味著更好的關(guān)系,。

　　7。 You‘re less angry,。
　　你會少些憤怒,。

　　When you don‘t have set boundaries， it means that gives other people the power over your own life — and that can lead to anger,。
　　你不為自己設(shè)限,，也就給了別人支配你生活的權(quán)力——而這樣就會導(dǎo)致憤怒情緒。

　　8,。 You learn how to say “no,。”
　　你會學(xué)會如何說“不”,。

　　“No” may be a small word but it‘s certainly powerful,。 The most basic way of establishing a boundary is declining anything you don’t have the capacity to handle。
　　“不”可能是個很小的字眼,，但無疑具有巨大的能量,。設(shè)限的最基本方式就是拒絕那些你無力處理的事情。

　　9,。 You end up doing things you actually want to do,。
　　你終于可以做你真正想做的事,。

　　Limits free you up for more opportunity to do the work and activities that you actually desire to do。
　　設(shè)限會將你解放,，讓你有更多的機會去參與你真正渴望的工作和活動,。

　　10。 You become a more understanding person,。
　　你會成為一個更貼心的人,。

　　When you‘re compassionate toward yourself about what you can tolerate， you’re better able to express that to other people who have their own boundaries they want to follow,。
　　當你能對自己有同情心,、知曉自己能承受的限度，你也就能更好地表達對別人的同情心并理解他人遵循的限度,。
(作者：Lindsay Holmes 來源：赫芬頓郵報)