How to Say No

怎樣拒絕別人

We say yes to people because it's easy. Learning to say no is like learning anything: it seems really scary at first, but it's so rewarding when you get the hang of it!

我們答應(yīng)別人某事很簡(jiǎn)單,。學(xué)會(huì)拒絕就像學(xué)習(xí)其他任何事一樣：一開(kāi)始似乎很可怕,，但當(dāng)你學(xué)會(huì)之后，對(duì)你就十分有益,。

The trick to saying no is doing it firmly without sounding rude. You must avoid being wishy-washy. Here are some lines you can practice:

拒絕別人的竅門就是,，堅(jiān)定地去做，但不要使自己聽(tīng)上去很粗魯,。你必須避免蒼白無(wú)力的拒絕,。這里有一些拒絕的話語(yǔ)可供你練習(xí)。

•If a teacher asks you to take on more responsibility than you need: Thank you for thinking of me, but I will have to say no. I'm just over-scheduled at this time.

如果老師想讓你做你職責(zé)范圍之外的事：謝謝您能想到我,，但我還是得拒絕,。這次我的日程表都排滿了。

•If a teacher asks you to do something you don't feel comfortable with: This sounds like it would be a great opportunity for somebody, but it's not right for me.

如果老師讓你做一些會(huì)讓你不舒服的事：這對(duì)于別人來(lái)說(shuō)真是一個(gè)好機(jī)會(huì),，但對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)不是,。

•If somebody wants you to cheat: Sorry, I don't share my homework. That would get us both in trouble.

如果某人想讓你作弊：抱歉，我不想和別人分享自己的家庭作業(yè),。這會(huì)給我們兩人都帶來(lái)麻煩的,。

•If somebody tries to push work off on you: I just don't have the time to do a good job at that right now.

如果某人把工作推給你：我現(xiàn)在沒(méi)時(shí)間去做好這項(xiàng)工作。

•If somebody tries to overload you with a task: I can't do that because I have an assignment due tomorrow.

如果某人想給你增加工作量：我不行,，因?yàn)槭诸^有工作要做,，明天就是截止日期了。

•If somebody tries to unload a problem on you: I understand your situation, but I don't have an answer for you.

如果某人想把麻煩甩給你：我明白你的處境,，但我不會(huì)答應(yīng)你的,。

When You Have to Say Yes

什么時(shí)候可以答應(yīng)別人的請(qǐng)求

There will be times when you want to say no but you can’t. If you're working on a group project, you have to take on some of the work, but you don't want to volunteer for everything. When you have to say yes, you can do it with firm conditions.

總會(huì)有一些時(shí)候，你想拒絕但又不能拒絕,。如果你在做團(tuán)體任務(wù),，你就得承擔(dān)一些工作，但你不會(huì)想承擔(dān)所有的工作,。當(dāng)你只能答應(yīng)別人時(shí),，你就得堅(jiān)定地去做,。

A conditional "yes" may be necessary if you know you should do something but you also know you don't have all the time or resources. An example of a conditional yes is: "Yes, I'll make the posters for the club, but I won't pay for all the supplies."

如果你知道，你應(yīng)該做一些事,，但你的時(shí)間和資源也是有限的,，這時(shí)候有條件的答應(yīng)別人是必要的。關(guān)于有條件的答應(yīng)有一個(gè)例子：“是,，我可以為俱樂(lè)部制作海報(bào)，但我不會(huì)包攬所有的事兒,�,！�

Saying no is all about gaining respect. Gain respect for yourself by saying no when it's necessary. Gain the respect of others by saying no in a polite way.

拒絕能讓你獲得尊重。必要的時(shí)候,，你要通過(guò)拒絕別人來(lái)為自己獲得尊重,。在通過(guò)拒絕別人獲得尊重的時(shí)候，還要以禮貌的方式進(jìn)行,。(滬江英語(yǔ))